Myths and Facts About Female Orgasm

The mysteries of a woman’s body are one of the reasons why they have been revered through the centuries. However, it is also one of the reasons the woman’s body has been so misunderstood. It has taken science some time to get around to researching female sexual anatomy, especially as it relates to pleasure.

On the most fundamental level, women’s bodies are wholly different than men’s and need to be treated as such. When a woman is understood and respected for what her body can perform, deeper intimacy is reached and greater pleasure can be experienced. 

The female orgasm has arguably been one of the most bumbled sexual concepts throughout the ages. Fortunately, a broader understanding and acceptance of sexual exploration has led to dispelling many myths about the female orgasm. Here are some of the most profound:

Myth: Most women can orgasm through penetrative sex alone.

Fact: Unfortunately, this is false. New research has consistently indicated that 75% of women need some other form of stimulation to reach orgasm, many times in the form of clitoral stimulation. 

Myth: The G-spot is the key to all female orgasms.

Fact: The G-spot garnered a lot of press in the 1980s and led many to believe it was the end-all be-all of female orgasms. The truth is that the G-spot is actually just one part of a huge neural network connecting the clitoris to other parts of the female body. Each woman is different and it takes some time and exploration to figure out what is most pleasurable for her as an individual, which may or may not be G-spot related. 

Myth: Females can’t ejaculate.

Fact: The truth is that women can release fluid when they get aroused. Female ejaculate comes from the Skene's gland (often referred to as the “female prostate”), which is behind the G-spot. While this may look different for each woman depending on her unique physiology, it is a fact that women can ejaculate.

Myth: Every female orgasm is an explosive event.

Fact: Orgasms are as different as the females who experience them. While some women may routinely experience the over-the-top orgasms brought on by pelvic floor muscle contractions, others may have more subtle experiences that are more relaxing and pleasant than earth-shattering. 

Myth: If you don’t experience simultaneous orgasms with your partner, something’s wrong.

Fact: It can be difficult enough for many women to experience an orgasm during penetration, let alone try to have one at the same time as their partner. While the rare simultaneous orgasm is wonderful and exciting, it shouldn’t be the goal of every sexual encounter. Experiencing an orgasm while your partner gently stimulates you and looks on can be just as rewarding and intimate as one that is mutual.

Understanding your own body is the key to helping your partner bring you pleasure and achieve deeper intimacy during sex. When the myths surrounding the female orgasm are debunked, it allows partners to stop focusing on the hype and instead focus on what makes you both feel stimulated and connected.